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Gone Fishing.. Together

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“Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”

Love is a little like this metaphor.

Have you learned to fish, or have you relied on being fed by those you choose to love?

It seems like an obvious truth, yet so many of us never learn to “fish.”

We seek and source love outside ourselves, just like being given a fish for a day, then months, and even years, but never having learned to feed ourselves…..

Over time, this creates a dependency where love becomes less about the joy and nourishment with the one who feeds us and more about necessity.

For a time, we’re fed, but if we never learn to fish, and the fisherman leaves us or we choose to walk away, we’re left without the love that once fed us.

That emptiness can create a sense of urgency, driving us to seek another, not necessarily someone who truly nourishes us, but simply anyone who will feed us so we don’t feel the hunger.

But when we learn to “fish,” we feed ourselves with love for a lifetime.

We learn to offer ourselves the love we so often seek from others. Instead of waiting for someone to nourish our hearts, we learn to nourish them ourselves, whenever we want.

We no longer stay where we feel unfulfilled, because we don’t depend on love outside of us. We become the source of our own love.

And you wanna know the beautiful part…. one day, we meet someone else who also knows how to fish, who nourishes themselves without needing to be fed by anyone else.

And you get to move through life like two happy fishermen on the lake, just enjoying the view. Neither needing the other to survive, simply sharing the peace of casting a line beside someone else who knows how to “fish.”

– Heather Dyan Morgan

If you like this perspective and want more of my thoughts, find the Wandering the Wild Mess podcast.

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● About Me

I’m Heather Dyan Morgan, a writer, speaker, and podcast host who left behind everything I knew to start over from scratch.
Literally the definition of wandering the wild mess.

Born and raised in Utah (yes, I grew up Mormon), I walked away from the only life I had ever known—including a good man who simply wasn’t meant for me, and moved to Tennessee with no friends, no family, and no place to call home. I had spent over a decade climbing the corporate ladder, and one day I simply told my boss: “I’m moving. Keep me or don’t.”

A little wild? Maybe. But I’ve always felt like a caged bird waiting to be free.
And once I finally jumped, there was no turning back.

Those early months, bouncing between Airbnbs, navigating heartbreak, identity shifts, and deep solitude, were more than a leap. They were a rebirth.
And somehow, they became the beginning of everything.

Now I share my journey through my podcast (Wandering the Wild Mess), I’m working on an aligned project of digital healing guides, and continue to pour into the written word—because storytelling has always been my way of making sense of the chaos and helping others feel less alone in theirs.

I’ve been writing since I could hold a pencil and asking deep questions since I could form a sentence. I’m endlessly curious about the human experience—how we think, feel, and move through this world. I believe we don’t fail; we just evolve.

I’m here to remind you that it’s okay not to have it all figured out. You’re allowed to grow, grieve, start over, and still be wildly worthy of love and joy.

I enjoy deep conversations, acoustic music, mountain views, and campfire moments that make you feel something. And I believe that if you’re reading this, you’re here for a reason.

Thanks for being part of my wild mess. Let’s wander it together.

And in case no one told you today—you matter

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